Tuesday, November 30, 2021: LESSONS FROM THE KITCHEN
Browned Butter, and the Importance of Patience
Have you ever made browned butter? If you have, you can attest that on paper, the process seems quite simple and rather elementary, as though even a brand-spanking novice in the kitchen could master it. Simply take two sticks of butter, plopped them into a heavy-bottomed pot, heat on low-medium heat with a constant stir for about 5 minutes until it has a lovely amber color, then immediately remove from the heat. Simple, right?
Well, I’d like to think I know my way around a kitchen and am quite a good cook and even better baker. However, I’m embarrassed at how many times I’ve completed wasted sticks upon sticks of perfectly quality butter at the quest of that perfect deep amber hue.
While constantly and devotedly stirring the pot (literally) filled with unsalted sticks of butter for what felt like hours this afternoon making Salted Honey Chewy Pumpkin Cookies (add recipe link and include below), I realized that so much about life and how I communicate with others can be found in the making of browned butter. Have I lost you? Stick with me (pun intended).
Patience is not a virtue for nothing! As Barbara Johnson said, “Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears.” Patience is hard, really hard. Yes, it certainly is. Patience is delaying gratification when you just want something now! Patience is taking your time and moving at the speed not of your desire or design but of someone else’s or some other thing. When browning butter, it can be easy to take a short-cut and turn the heat up to accelerate the process. Oh, is it tempting! Fools know what happens when you do this. Yes, you end up with burnt butter and a smelly home for days. No, true success comes in patiently and painstakingly stirring the luscious concocting with consistent commitment over relatively low heat for at about five long, seemingly endless minutes. Do this, and you will likely have success. When it comes to relationships and communication, I can’t tell you how important it is to just bide your time, sit on your hands, zip up your mouth, and just patiently wait at the pace of the other person. Or the pace in traffic. Patience is not just the ability to wait, it’s also how we behave while waiting. If your dear wife is pouring out her heart to you after a long day at the office, and your eyes are glancing repeatedly at your watch, you just blew it. There is wisdom in patience and waiting before opening your mouth, waiting before speaking and saying something that you may regret that can be impossible to take back. As Elon Musk once said, “Patience is a virtue, and I’m learning patience. It’s a tough lesson.” Learn it.
Keen Observation. The recipe may state to stir the butter consistently for five minutes, but if you aren’t paying attention to the important details that five minutes may be 30 seconds too long and there you go, burnt butter nightmare! Don’t take things at face-value. Everyone’s stovetop is slightly different, and your clock may be slightly off from the actual time. There is so much value in staying observant and not just going by what is written in a recipe. The best results require both. With people, often what we say is far from the truth of what we are feeling. A husband who asks his wife “what’s wrong” and gets a response, “nothing,” when he can tell something just doesn’t jive is wise to take a moment to sit down with his wife and just listen to what’s on her mind. Unfortunately, and all too often, that same husband is relieved that his wife said nothing is wrong and moves forward with his day, not realizing until it’s too late that he missed all the signs and now has to deal with her wrath. Poor chump! Keen observation and listening keeps us in the know and helps us really tackle the problems with much greater chance of a successful conclusion. As they say, actions always speak louder than words.
Stick with It! Don’t walk away from the pot! Otherwise, you’ll end up with burnt butter and the odor of which you won’t be able to get out of your home for days. Similarly, when someone needs you, don’t walk away from them. When we are in need of compassion and empathy or someone to simply listen quietly as we vent, one of the worst things we can do is become distracted and appear uninterested. Literally walking away when they are speaking (even if it’s just to get something from another room or answer the phone) can send all kinds of wrong messages to the person in need at that moment. Best to put all distractions aside and be 100% committed to them in that moment. That person (and your pot of perfectly amber-hued browned butter) will thank you.
Salted Honey Chewy Pumpkin Cookies
Perfect little spicy morsels that are oh, so worth browning butter for!
Ingredients:
· 1 cup salted butter
· 3 tablespoons honey
· 1 teaspoon kosher salt
· 1 1/2 cups dark brown sugar
· 1 egg yolk
· 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
· 1/3 cup pure pumpkin puree
· 1 teaspoon baking soda
· 2 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice
· ¼ teaspoon ground cloves
· ½ teaspoon cinnamon
· 2 1/4 cups all-purpose flour
· 1/4 cup granulated sugar
· 1 teaspoon cinnamon
· Flaked sea salt to garnish
1. Preheat the oven to 350°F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper and set aside.
2. In a large saucepan over medium-low heat, melt the butter. Stirring constantly continue cooking the butter until it reaches a deep amber color and remove from the heat. This will take about 5 minutes. Allow the butter to cool for 30 minutes.
3. While the butter is cooling, stir together the honey and salt in a small bowl. Set aside.
4. Add in the brown sugar and honey into the cooled butter. Using a rubber spatula mix together, scraping up all the brown bits of the butter. Add in the egg yolk, vanilla, pumpkin, baking soda, and pumpkin pie spice, ground cloves, and cinnamon and mix until smooth.
5. Stir in the flour until combined. Set aside.
6. In a small bowl mix together the granulated sugar and cinnamon. Use a medium (3- tablespoon) cookie scoop to portion out the dough. Roll the dough into a ball and drop it into the cinnamon sugar mixture and coat. Place the dough onto the prepared baking sheet 3- inches apart. The dough will be soft but not sticky. Bake for 9 -11 minutes until the edges are golden. As soon as the cookies come out of the oven, drop (or bang) the pan down onto the stove top 5 times. This gives the cookies a crackly top, and reduces any airiness, making them even chewier.
7. Allow the cookies to cool on the baking sheet for 5 minutes and then transfer to a wire rack to cool completely. Sprinkle with sea salt flakes.
8. EAT!!! Your reward for patience is at your fingertips to enjoy!
Recipe adapted from www.cookiesandcups.com
